16th December - Lesbians

So we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually we are members one of another.

Romans 12:5

Ten years ago, my partner was asked by a friend to join a church choir. I went along too, thinking it might be a nice thing to do. On the way there, we talked about being discreet about our relationship, both a bit worried that it might be frowned on. When we arrived, it quickly became clear that us being a couple wasn't an issue at all. Over time, we've become very active members of our church.

In September, my partner gave birth to our first child. In spite of how much a part of church life we are, I did worry a bit about how some members of the congregation would react. Once again, I needn't have worried. From the moment my partner began to show, people would come to talk to us both about our baby. And people very definitely accept that our daughter is as much my daughter as my partner's - as of course she is. That feels really nice.

I walked into church that evening expecting to find a nice new hobby. What I found was a second family, who welcomed me just as they would any other person. My sexuality wasn't important.

I wish that were the case for everyone. Our churches should be places where everyone is welcome for the people they are, without labels, and without judgement.

Sue and her wife are regular churchgoers in the Newcastle diocese

Daily prayer

Father we pray that all of your churches offer a welcoming and safe space for all, and give you thanks for those churches where people are welcomed into the body of Christ for the people they are.


Lord, in this time of Advent open our hearts to those who feel excluded from Your church.
Help us draw in those on the margins and place them in the centre of our family.